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Barbara C.
on 4/2/09 2:41 pm - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: Mourning my husbands shooting death...

(((((Sweetheart)))))),

Oh my goodness! Words cannot truly convey the deep sympathy I have for you, your family and the tragic loss you are all suffering.

Of course, you are all in our thoughts and prayers as you make your way through these dark hours, days and weeks ahead. I'm sure it doesn't seem so now, but the sun will shine again as G-d shines his countenance upon you and your family.

I know how hard it can be to take care of yourself at a time like this, but please be sure to eat WELL and regularly. Take your supplements and be sure to get out of the house everyday. It's really important. If you continue to suffer depression, please seek and obtain medical support. You may need some therapy to deal with the intense and overwhelming pain you are experiencing as you work to keep your head above water and to care for your lovely children. I'm sure that you will see your dear Robert in their smiles, laughter, movements and gestures inthe coming days, weeks, and months... He will live on through them and in your loving hearts and memories.

Wishing you the peace the memories and time will provide.

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

Barbara C.
on 4/2/09 2:32 pm - Raleigh, NC
Topic: RE: Newbie needs info/thoughts!!!

Hi Marci,

Welcome to the group. I hope that you will take the time to look at both options. There is no 'best' surgery for everyone, but there will be a best fit for you. When I was looking into the various options, I narrowed mine down to RNY and Lap. Being my somewhat analytical self, I created a table listing the pros and cons of each and weighting them to see what seemed best for me. RNY won out, but not because it is an overall better solution, but because it was a better fit for my personal cir****tances.

A friend of mine that just had DS a couple of months ago seriously considered RNY, but she has some degenerative disc disease, coupled with a signficant family history of osteo-arthritis. She knew that she could be exceptionally compliant with the great number of supplements that DS required and she also knew that she was likely to need NSAIDS to help control her arthritis pain; DS allows her to take NSAIDS and RNY doesn't. There were other factors that swayed her towards DS, but that was the biggest.

I don't know if doing something like that might hel*****t.

I do know that you have waited a long time, but in the interest of making the best decision for yourself in the short and long-term, I hope that you consider both and how they fit your overall health and lifestyle profile and then make the best decision for you.``

Barbara
ObesityHelp Coach and Support Group Leader
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/bcumbo_group/
High-264, Current-148, Goal-145

MarciRenee
on 3/31/09 11:54 am - IA
Topic: RE: Mourning my husbands shooting death...
I am so very, very sorry to hear about the death of your husband!  You don't know me, but I wanted t share with you that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!
Marci       
MarciRenee
on 3/31/09 11:52 am - IA
Topic: Newbie needs info/thoughts!!!
As I was being welcomed into one of the forums, someone posted that I should research another form of WLS - the DS.  I had never heard of it so that's just what I did.  At first I was feeling as if I had already done all the research that I needed to do and had my mind made up.  But on further processing in my steel trap of a mind, I decided that I am going to have someone cutting on my body that I should indeed ensure that I am making the best possible decision - even if it does mean more research!

So I went on over the DS forum and read some things...enough to get me interested in looking further.  So I called my insurance company to make sure that this form of WLS is indeed covered and lo and behold it is - with the same criteria as RNY and lap band - woot woot!  So then I decided to see if there was a surgeon near by, well no such luck.  There does not appear to be a surgeon in all of Iowa that performs this surgery.  So my two closest options are Chicago or Omaha.  I am leaning towards Omaha after looking at Dr. Gary Anthone's website and page on here.  I am very impressed with what I see about him.  So I call my insurance company yet again and found out that to my luck he is IN network - triple woot woot!  So what do I do?  I call them to get some info...and am told that their first step is to check with my insurance to make sure that they and the procedure are covered.  Ok now I know that getting paid is important, but does it need to be the first bloody concern of absolutely everyone related to WLS?  Jesus!  So ok, I guess I can deal with that since I already know that my insurance appears to cover both.  Next step is of course the dreaded seminar...but I was told that b/c I live so far away that I can come in and watch the seminar on DVD and then immediately meet with the surgeon right after.  Cool..  My next question of course was how long is this all going to take to get me a surgery date?  She says that is usually takes about 4 months.  Well hell, don't really wanna wait another four months.  So I tell her that I am basically on track for RNY in Waterloo, and that really all I am waiting for is official insurance approval before I get a surgery date.  She asked if I had the psych eval, nutritionist appointment, 6 month supervised diet, sleep study, etc.  And I told her that yep I've had all of that done, so she said that considerably moves up my time.  Wonderful!  So she is sending me info in the mail to get that initial insurance coverage question answered and we go from there.

So here I am trying to make a decision...RNY or DS?  My initial instinct is to for RNY b/c I can get that done faster and feel like I have been waiting for so long b/c after I finally made the decision to have WLS and attend the seminar (after fretting for about 18 months) I found that I had to do the supervised diet.  Well I did that and am in the home stretch.  But on the other hand my rational and adult brain kicked in and told me that I needed to calm down and look at both options and pick which one I think will work best for me.  So that's what I am trying to do!  But calmness and patience have never, ever, ever been a virtue that I have in my bag of tricks!

So anyone who has any input either way - RNY or DS - I would love to hear it!! 
Marci       
Brenda Ashcraft
on 3/30/09 2:16 pm - Monterrey, Mexico
Topic: RE: Introductions
Hello,  I am Brenda from Monterrey, Mexico.  I am 61 years old, mother of 3 and grandmother of 5 with another on the way.  My husband and I have been missionaries in Monterrey since 1969.  We just might stay, if we decide that we like it!

In 2001 I had a adjustable gastric band put in...one year later it had migrated into my stomach and caused an horrific infection.  The docs say I almost died.

So I decided to do it on my own.....over the next 7 years, I gained back everything that I had lost plus another 20 pounds.

My doctors encouraged me to have more surgery...my sister had the RNY last March and has lost all her weight....  Finally I said yes.

Last October 10, I underwent surgery, thinking I would have the RNY like my sister.  The doctor found some giant deposits of scar tissue and wound up doing a VSG. 

I have lost 60 pounds since then.  Have regained some of my health, and the doc is now ready to complete the RNY...probably in April.

It is good to be in this group.  I need all the support that I can get.

Brenda

Psalm 126:6
Brenda Ashcraft
on 3/30/09 2:07 pm - Monterrey, Mexico
Topic: RE: Mourning my husbands shooting death...
You are in my prayers.  Please take care of yourself and let us know from time to time how things are going with you.


Psalm 126:6
iluvcocolopez
on 3/28/09 2:19 pm
Topic: Mourning my husbands shooting death...
My wonderful husband was robbed and murdered on March 19th.  He was shot twice in own backyard in the middle of the day. I miss him so much it hurts and am suffering deep depression.  This has been the worst and toughest thing that has ever happened to me and my family.  On April 27th, we would have celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary.  We have 2 kids, Anthony, 13 and Priscilla, 8.  Needless to say, this has affected my diet and vitamin intake since it happened.  I can barely eat anything and know this can't be good for me.  I'm asking for everyone in this forum to please keep us in your thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.  He will NEVER be forgotten!   In loving memory of Robert Lopez 11/11/69 - 3/19/09
lmefford
on 3/22/09 11:20 am - Greenup, KY
Topic: RE: Giving yourself credit...

I deserve credit for keeping my blood sugar down within normal limits.
I deserve credit for staying away from sugar and soft drinks.
I deserve credit for keeping my crabs low...

westwalker
on 3/20/09 11:09 pm - NC
Topic: RE: Giving yourself credit...

I've been drinking my 8 glasses of water per day. I've been sticking to my calorie limit of 800. I exercised twice last week. Even  though I get very hungry, I still stick to what I am suppose to eat.

bzlatich
on 3/19/09 1:58 am - Kennewick, WA
Topic: RE: Giving yourself credit...
lets see this week i'm 3 months post op and i finally got out and walked a mile on monday, i've gottn my protein all in, which is hard for me, i get busy and i forget about me, that has always been one of my problems, i need to re-schedue  my schedule to fit it everything that i need to do for me first,  i'm doing better on remembering my vitamins, i wish there were vitamins that i could just swallow any suggestions? my nut said i could take capsules now, she gave me a couple samples of calium capsules. anyone one take capsules at this stage??????????

thanks
barb 
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